Are You a Man or Are You a Mouse? 3 Simple Tips to Become The Man You Dream To Be
This post is pretty simple and clear and to the point, and if you don’t get it, you never will.
Here are 3 tips to becoming the man you dream to be:
1. Find stuff you love
2. Do the stuff you love
3. Do it every single day
Capiche?
…Just kidding!
I have more to say. But not much.
Finding stuff you love doing is not easy. You may have an idea about it, but sometimes, it can be vague. Find out exactly what it is you love doing, and why.
A really simple example is strength training. I love training with heavy weights, and here’s why: I feel good when I get my ass out of the door and to the gym, no matter the weather.
I feel strong when I move more weight than last session. I feel happy when I’m finished – and the feeling stays with me for the rest of the day.
I give more to the people around me when I have taken care of myself, and my energy levels are constantly pretty high.
Last but not least, I love that I can eat whatever I want without deteriorating me from my goals. I don’t eat like crap, not at all, but I love the fact that I can.
That’s why I train. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Not a chance.
Thinking your way to becoming a better man and having a more fulfilling life won’t do sh*t. Neither will trying.
I know it all too well: you start doing something and you feel great, but the passion is missing and the women still doesn’t appear.
Here’s the answer why: you’re doing it wrong. You’re either doing the wrong things, you’re doing them wrong or you’re not doing them nearly enough.
Fortunately, it’s easy to change.
If you envy other men for leading exciting lives, now is the time to finally do something about it.
Here’s a quote from Sean Messenger, which says it pretty damn well:
“The key to your life, my friend, is not what you know. It is not what you think. And it sure as hell ain’t what kind of advice you get from me or other self-righteous egomaniacs who want you to tell them just how cool they are for having this whole “game” figured out.”
So… What do you love doing? Find out what it is, and do it every single day.
Accountability breeds success, so if you’re serious, tell us what you want to do on the forums. We’ll hold you to your word.
Image by Eduardo Amorim.
Damn right, i used to be that type of person but one day I wanted to change and i did. I havent looked back. Sometimes it is hard to do but that itself is the challenge. I do the things I love and can honestly say i dont look back and what I do really works for me.
thank you so much for your posts they really help through good and bad times.
keep them coming
Cool stuff dude! If you stop doing what you love, or even worse if you don’t even try to find that something that you enjoy, then my sad man, you’re not living at all!
It can be anything, really, ANYTHING!!! making photos of animals, rollerskating, cooking…. whatever, but just something that makes you fly, that when you’re doing it you feel great, free and like the whole world can go to hell and you wouldn’t give a fuck because it’s your time and you are having the best time ever.
Sounds great John! And no problem – thanks for the support.
Mirko, I couldn’t agree more. It can be anything in the world, as long as you enjoy it. Except if it hurts other people, but that’s a topic for another day… Keep it real.
Alex
hey alex I muz say this is a great website. i really enjoy reading ALL your posts and comments even those from few years back!
it has been a tough time for me coz of relationship stuff but reading your blog sure helps lot! thank you and i will visit this site frequently!
Exactly man, passion. Finding what makes you fulfilled and excited and doing it. Not later, not tomorrow, right now.
As you said, it takes experimentation to discover what you’re really looking for. In a sense, you’re passions kind of find you. The beauty is that the more you follow you’re heart, the more honest with yourself and with all aspects of life you become. Living true to yourself is the key to happiness.
Great post man :)
I wholeheartedly agree with this post! Being happy (by doing what you love as often as possible) is essential if you want to become a man you dream to be. I don’t necessarily think that it’s a good idea to make “do what you love” your job or your business, but I agree that it’s extremely important to do things that you love on a daily basis.
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Thanks :)